Showing posts with label Off the Beaten Path. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Off the Beaten Path. Show all posts

5/8/10

Even the unworthy are worth learning from...

Today I had a chance to quietly ponder Howard Zinn's wise words and how they apply to my life:
"You read a book, you meet a person, you have a single experience, and your life is changed in some way. No act, therefore, however small, should be dismissed or ignored."
My life has been packed with amazing mentors and people that have inspired me in ways that will stay with me throughout my existence. My teachers have engaged my intellect. My family has supported me in every endeavor and celebrated every success. My friends are an extension of my family. My employers keep me on my toes and guide me as I continue to grow as a leader. My employees continue to remind me how lucky I am to have such a great group to work with. The saying, "You're only as good as the people you surround yourself with" holds very true in my case. Without all of these people, I am nothing.

However, it's not only all of those brilliant, good-hearted, loving, caring, scholarly, funny, passionate people that have had an influence on me. Every person I've ever met is important to how my life has unfolded - even all the complete a**holes.

People that lack in character, knowledge, discipline, work ethic, positivity, manners, class and the like might seem like piles of crap to be ignored, but they are not. Recently I reflected on the people that I did not, under any circumstance, want to turn into. Whether they were just complete fools or just lonely jerks that put on the "I'm too cool for school" front, they have all been very important to me.

The reason is that I have seen parts of myself within these people. I listened to their words and watched their actions and realized how familiar they were. In my head I would think about how lame they were, but then about how I was exhibiting the very same behavior. I allowed myself to succumb to peer pressure and follow the lemmings that whined and complained about how this sucked and that sucked and Detroit sucks and Michigan sucks and work sucks and so do those people over there and those people over there...and...

ENOUGH.

I do not want to covet what others have. I want to appreciate what I have. I did not want to judge every single person for their personal decisions. My actions haven't always been sound in the past, so why judge others that are working through their own lives the best they know how? No longer am I interested in doing it myself because I can do it better than everyone else. I want to teach and share every skill I have. Knowledge is not only cool, but better when shared in large quantities.

My point is this: every experience is worthwhile, even if it's shared with people you might think are unworthy. One can learn from every set. And I have. A lot.

7/27/09

Mashups for Granny?

Seriously, look, I love this. :) The image was created by psd and I found the story through PHILANTHROPIY 2173.

Don't know what a mashup is? I don't either, but I know they are sweet, due primarily to my buddy B-Money. He says it's cool, then I will probably agree. Most of the time. :)

What do you think of the granny mashups? Would granny use it? Do they already? Sorta? Granny is using Facebook to talk to the grandchildren, after all.

4/23/09

5 things I'm Grateful for: Detroit Edition

In the spirit of positivity, I've decided to share five things I'm grateful for in Detroit. Here goes:
  1. Detroit Red Wings: They were the first team my family started rooting for when we arrived in Detroit back in 1985. In my college years I loved writing for the Wings. They are sometimes called the "Yankees" of hockey, but that's really inaccurate. The Wings have tremendous scouting, especially in Europe. They also have an amazing front office headed by Kenny Holland and Jimmy D. The Yankees buy who they want, the Wings research, grow, wheel and then deal to make this a haven for those who crave championships.
  2. Detroit Tigers/Comerica Park: CoPa is my Tiger Stadium. I love going to the ballgame and whether the Tigers are going to the World Series or struggling to pull together a bullpen, I will always love to visit my favorite ballpark on earth.
  3. Wayne State University: OK, listen, this is one of the most important institutions in Detroit. I got my Library degree there and made a ton of contacts - everyone from librarians to archivists to lawyers. This is where Detroit's rebirth begins.
  4. Food & Beverage: Cass Cafe, Traffic Jam, Motor City Brewery, Old Campus, Wasabi, Detroit Beer Company, Foran's, Greenwich, Cobo Joe's, Jacoby's, Z's Villa, Circa, Lefty's, Hockeytown Cafe, Slow's (when they're not running out of pulled pork), and other fine dining establishments keep my belly happy.
  5. Beautiful Family; Beautiful Friends: Home is where the heart is and the heart is where my family and friends are. Detroit is the core of my existence, because this is where my favorite people live (well, most of them). Detroiters are like no one else and I love them (even if some of them are total jerks).

4/5/09

5 Positive Things

Lately I've been looking for ways to fend off negativity, please pardon the hippie-speak. I have found that a great way to lift negativity is to smile it off or scold myself out loud if I'm not around others. A technique I wished I used more often is taking time out to consider the day's gifts. Each time I do yoga I set an intention, but that is to start the day. Each day offers a lot and I'd like to try and reflect more on what those things are.

Someone retweeted a very simple question (@WritingSpirit retweeted @GlennaMageau for those keeping score): what are 5 positive things that happened in your life today? Here are mine:
  1. Hung out with a bunch of super fun people in the VIP section of a snazzy Detroit club.
  2. Made and enjoyed sandwiches for lunch and salmon with rice and peas for dinner.
  3. Completed my budget for April. I'm really starting to figure this finance junk out :).
  4. I slept in and then took a nap.
  5. Listened to a bunch of Business Week and Bloomberg podcasts.

10/4/08

Not ready for one job

Writing is all about rewriting and this instance is no exception. When I got a new full time job, I decided that I would keep all of my jobs. I currently have five. Next week I'll be working well over 60 hours.

When I told people that this was what I was intending to do this, they all looked at me like I was crazy. I now know that I was. Before I realized that, though, I got defensive. You should have read this post about a week ago. It was: "Why don't people get me?" "Why do people doubt me?" Boo, hoo, hoo.

My problem is this: I think I know everything well before I actually experience it. What I thought this time around was that working a full time job and four part time gigs was manageable. In fact, it is, but not without some sacrifice and a side of blood, sweat and tears. Slight exaggeration, pardon, but you get my drift.

In the original post, I complained that explaining myself was tedious and I was getting tired of it. Now I understand the strange glances and confused questions. What I'm doing right now is bananas. It's very, very difficult. I'm not the one to admit I'm having a hard time with anything, but this experience has really made me take a step back and give my lifestyle a nice long look.

Nonetheless, I have an explanation for my mad behavior. I am going to alter my work schedule as I need to. For the time being, though, I'm going to roll up my sleeves and finish what I have begun.

So, to help some people understand my decision making:
  • Career A.D.D. I haven't had just one job since I was 18 years old; I'm 26. I've juggled at least two since then and have only gained as I went along.

  • Challenge. If it's too easy, I tend to lose interest quick. I find that be keeping multiple jobs, well of challenge never runs dry.

  • Variety. This bullet point could combined with the one prior, but I really like my workday to be a diverse experience. I like to connect with people on a variety of levels, whether it be about their library experience, the writing craft or hockey.

  • Yes I can! Another reason that I work so many jobs is, well, because I can. I'm good at time management and I like my work - all of it. I love libraries, researching, writing, hockey...the whole nine yards. Why would I give up so many good things? It's like giving up cheese - no thanks!

  • Money is awesome. This goes without saying, really. I don't work for free. Volunteering stopped a few years back. And I gots to get paid. I have bills, ok? I'm looking to get my behind out of debt and FAST! Hanging out with friends and relaxing sounds absolutely delightful, however friends don't pay the bills and neither does relaxing. I like having a roof over my head. I want to start traveling again, buy running shoes, and pay off my student loans. And I love the work I do, which gives me money to accomplish these grown-up feats. It's quite simple.
It's not quite that simple. The money is great, sure, but it's been a rough ride. Nothing worth the fight is ever easy, so I'm battling on, but it's taking some getting used to. So, dear friends, I'll see you on the other side. I will miss you for a bit. Tell my books I miss them. Tell sleep I long for its beautiful spell. Tell exercise I swear I will learn to wake early. Tell my diet I haven't forgot my promise.

This is not easy, but I'll be damned if I end up a quitter. There's people out there that bust their humps for less and would think that I'm not only a crybaby for not embracing all this work, but plain stupid for not taking the opportunities when financial doom and gloom surrounds us.